I received an unexpected call from 'strawberry' a few days back. And she proposed a meet-up the next day which i am also free. Its like so long that we havent meet up, & just all of a sudden we are going to meet the following day. The feeling is quite surreal..I had been visiting her blog ever since we left school and i thought she wanted to meet me to pass me her wedding invitation card. But she didnt. Nevertheless we had a good chat and i am looking forward to meeting her again.
Compared that with someone who has been asking me when i am free & after i told him my off days, he said would get back to me. But he NEVER. Sometimes i am wondering if he's real busy or that the sms is just a way of keeping in contact without any real aim or meaning. I should add that i appreciate him for taking the effort to try to arrange a meet-up though....
I know how hard and difficult it's to arrange a gathering. I asked 'Apple' out on her day off for 2 consecutive weeks and she told me that she's feeling too tired to go cycling. This I can understand. But this doesnt reduce any of my disappointment...
The 3 friends above whom i have mentioned, i really thought we got along very well, especially during various stages of my life. Hence i really cherish a lot of our friendship. But somehow, it seems that its possible that friendship can end peacefully...Something which i dont want to see, but i have no idea how to sustain the friendship...
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
The importance of communication...
I was on the bus just now and overheard a girl lamenting to her friend about how bad her boyfriend is...How he failed to catch her hints, how many times she has reminded him to take leave to go for an overseas trip, how much he likes gaming instead of going out with her, why he didnt bother to call her every now and then to show concern about her, why he always cancel dates and appointments with her at the last minute, why he didnt care about her feelings...And that all these problems are making her school work very depressing and tedious..not only affecting her mood and also her relationships with her friends as they have to bear with her temper....And her friend was quite quiet throughout, preferring to let the 'victim' vent her frustrations...
"Apple" taught me one very important thing. Guys always make this mistake of seeking their male friends opinions when they have doubts on how to handle a relationship with her girl. 'Why dont they just approach the girl's female friends, who knows more about her and can give better suggestions?' ...Maybe if that girl on that bus had confided in any male friend, she would have known what was wrong in that relationship. Or that probably, she is just finding an avenue to vent her frustrations and hoping that her friend (and me, unwittingly of course) would lend a ear....
Before i dropped off at Toa Payoh ( I was on Bus 151), I heard her admitting that she's 'emotionally high maintainence'...which brings to mind a friend who told me that she's 'financially low maintainence and emotionally high maintainence'..But this friend of mine has been happily attached to her boyfriend for 5 years and counting...I dont know how long this poor girl on the bus will last though...but maybe they arent suitable to be together at all...because obviously there is a big big communication problem between the two of them...
And thats why the importance of communication cannot be downplayed. I am still learning and trying to communicate effectively with people....but its never easy. Everybody has different personality, character and thinkings...its really a challenge...
"Apple" taught me one very important thing. Guys always make this mistake of seeking their male friends opinions when they have doubts on how to handle a relationship with her girl. 'Why dont they just approach the girl's female friends, who knows more about her and can give better suggestions?' ...Maybe if that girl on that bus had confided in any male friend, she would have known what was wrong in that relationship. Or that probably, she is just finding an avenue to vent her frustrations and hoping that her friend (and me, unwittingly of course) would lend a ear....
Before i dropped off at Toa Payoh ( I was on Bus 151), I heard her admitting that she's 'emotionally high maintainence'...which brings to mind a friend who told me that she's 'financially low maintainence and emotionally high maintainence'..But this friend of mine has been happily attached to her boyfriend for 5 years and counting...I dont know how long this poor girl on the bus will last though...but maybe they arent suitable to be together at all...because obviously there is a big big communication problem between the two of them...
And thats why the importance of communication cannot be downplayed. I am still learning and trying to communicate effectively with people....but its never easy. Everybody has different personality, character and thinkings...its really a challenge...
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
A dream...got loopholes....but does it mean anything?...
Last night, i had a dream. Surprisingly the storyline still remains very clear after i woke up. Here it goes...
I was at Ang Mo Kio with a JC friend (i had lost touch with him for a long long time) looking for the MRT station, intending to go to Somerset MRT . It was around 1 plus in the afternoon (I checked my watch at that time). I had asked a female colleague out for lunch at Wisma Atria, where we would meet at the MRT station at 2pm (not including the JC friend of course, me and her only). And then after, we would attend a meeting around the area at 3pm. So naturally, i was quite happy to meet her for lunch....But as time passes, my JC friend and i couldnt find the MRT station (This always happen in my dreams...i can never find places or reach destinations on time)..so i got rather panicky and called my colleague that i couldnt meet her for lunch and that we would meet again another day.... And then i woke up....
This storyline seems reasonable...but there's at least 4 loopholes...No 1. I dont store her phone number in my handphone, so how can i contact her? No 2. If i am going to meet her for lunch and also being very excited about it, then why am i still doing in Ang Mo Kio at 1 plus? No 3. If i am going to Wisma Atria with her, then why did I want to drop at Somerset instead of Orchard MRT?....No.4...She's my colleague, so its near-impossible that we would need to attend a meeting at Orchard together....
What does this dream reveal?...I have no idea...
I was at Ang Mo Kio with a JC friend (i had lost touch with him for a long long time) looking for the MRT station, intending to go to Somerset MRT . It was around 1 plus in the afternoon (I checked my watch at that time). I had asked a female colleague out for lunch at Wisma Atria, where we would meet at the MRT station at 2pm (not including the JC friend of course, me and her only). And then after, we would attend a meeting around the area at 3pm. So naturally, i was quite happy to meet her for lunch....But as time passes, my JC friend and i couldnt find the MRT station (This always happen in my dreams...i can never find places or reach destinations on time)..so i got rather panicky and called my colleague that i couldnt meet her for lunch and that we would meet again another day.... And then i woke up....
This storyline seems reasonable...but there's at least 4 loopholes...No 1. I dont store her phone number in my handphone, so how can i contact her? No 2. If i am going to meet her for lunch and also being very excited about it, then why am i still doing in Ang Mo Kio at 1 plus? No 3. If i am going to Wisma Atria with her, then why did I want to drop at Somerset instead of Orchard MRT?....No.4...She's my colleague, so its near-impossible that we would need to attend a meeting at Orchard together....
What does this dream reveal?...I have no idea...
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