Friday, January 23, 2009

The implications....

I had actually written something else instead of this sentence, but i decide to wait for two more weeks or so to see if anything has changed...looks like the BBQ and cycling and sitting at the beach had calmed me down a lot....

Thursday, January 15, 2009

why am I so angry???

The title speaks for itself. I am angry...yes...very angry. At who?...This i know...But at what in particular...I really have no idea..Somehow it makes me even more angry to justify or to rationalise what i am angry about..... To the extent that this makes me isolated from my colleagues who are also my good friends....which to me is a big consequence of my actions, of my anti-sociality... i can think of 101 ways in which he irritates me, in which i cant stand, in which i hope he dont even exist.,,but these are not why i get so angry (even though i force myself and "brokeback" to believe in)....Looks like only "jade orchid" managed to see through me & my frustrations...ya its true...guys are better at giving solutions and solving problems...girls are better at consoling and showing empathy and understanding of those feelings / emotional problems..

I am not the sort of person who can get angry for long. I am quite easy to be pleased... (try chocolate ice-creams)..and normally i would apologise to that person to break the ice (even though sometimes it backfires...)..

The conflict between me is at most a clash of opinions and working style. Pretty nothing much. Its not the first day i know him anyway. One of the reason why i flare up is because i dont want a repeat of the "LKK" incident (LKK is a person's name) where he questions everything...the rationale, the sanity, the alternatives... that i did...that i could do...( this reason is true)..another thing is the tone and the way he speaks...machiam like want to challenge me like that...like he's confirm right because he had discussed it many times with "snowman"... and if in the most unlikely event he's wrong...he would consult my superior...Which would result in a repeat of that "LKK" incident....Honestly, this would make me flare up, but it wouldnt have a lasting impact...

And a gossip. This one, i am afraid, "jade orchid" got the main point at what i am angry about. He just said it at the wrong time, at the wrong place, at the wrong occasion, at the wrong atmosphere. The gossip is nothing, because as "jade orchid" consoles, the main characters (me included) wouldnt care about that at all because there are far too many gossips going around (especially for those who are singles) and "her" being so pretty and easy-going, she wouldnt have minded it at all. It wouldnt have any effect on our friendship (whether the gossip is true or not)...Neither would this any future implications...because its just a rumour, a gossip.. And "jade orchid" is sure i knew of these also...hence this being a reason i flare up is a lie....

I am just very very afraid that what "jade orchid" diagnosed is correct....because if what she said its true..it explains everything totally...but i really dont want it to be true....because i know i cant accept the consequences of that being true...

I am contemplating whether to sms him to apologise to him...okay...if that license plate of that bus i am taking next is odd, i will apologise..if its even..then see how la....